Building Self-esteem when you have BPD

-some people with BPD have low self-esteem, we were not taught how to value ourselves and celebrate the things we are good at

-we may grow up thinking that we suck at everything we do, these kind of thoughts can translate to our feelings

-our low self-esteem can impact every decision we make in our lives

-learn to have better self-esteem-write a list of things you like to do, then do something new related to your interests, start learning and putting into practice, slow process but you can master it and build your self-esteem along the way, make a list of your strengths and what you have achieved in your lifetime, spend time on personal hygiene, set challenges for yourself, practice gratitude

-take a self-esteem inventory-strengths and weaknesses, lets you know all the things you already tell yourself about how much you suck, as well as showing there are just as many things you don’t suck at

-set realistic expectations-no unrealistic expectations, stop the cycle of negative thinking about yourself that reinforce our negative self-esteem

-set aside perfection, grab hold of accomplishments and mistakes-perfection is unattainable for any of us, write down your accomplishments as you achieve them, set small goals, take something away from the mistakes you make, mistakes are opportunities for learning and growth

-explore yourself-self-exploration, open yourself up to new opportunities, new thoughts, trying out new things, new viewpoints, new friendships