Object Constancy-A person’s ability to trust that just because something disappears from view for a short time that it will come back. As adults, object constancy is the ability to maintain a connection to another person even when they are not present Abandonment-People with BPD both fear abandonment and have symptoms that create conflict with …
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How to Help Somebody with BPD
We just wish you could understand, understand our pain, understand our mind, understand that sometimes we might make mistakes, but we still need you to love us. We need you to reassure us. We need you to be there for us. We need you to not abandon us. We just need you.- If your loved …
BPD and Self-care
What is the purpose of a self-care plan? Self-care is a survival technique Some self-care ideas- set boundaries-setting boundaries is an important part of establishing one’s identity, it is a crucial aspect of mental health and well-being, set healthy boundaries confide in someone-talking to a trusted loved one can help you stay grounded identify your …
Fear of Abandonment
-Fear of abandonment is the overwhelming worry that people close to you will leave –I have felt this so many times. It’s overwhelming and torturing. You feel you must do whatever it takes to make this feeling go away and keep the person close to you -Fear of abandonment can be deeply rooted in a …
Some Personal Experiences with BPD and Relationships
I fall in love quickly, maybe too quickly? I’m not sure. But I just know. I really do love the person. They really do mean everything to me. I really would do anything for them. This is the good part. I love falling in love. I love being in love. I love cuddling with the …
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Learned Helplessness and how to overcome it
-learned helplessness is a mental state where someone who is forced to bear repeated adverse situations, becomes unable or unwilling to avoid these situations -this happens because past experiences have made them believe they don’t have the ability to avoid them, essentially, they’ve trained themselves (and their brain) to believe they have no control over …
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BPD Emotional Reaction Cycle
1 Painful event causes emotional response-one of the best traits of a person with Borderline is their ability to immediately know when they are hurting, sometimes in an effort to release the emotions, there is little thought given to the appropriate time or place 2 Others resist-others might sense the inappropriateness of the emotional reaction …
Splitting in BPD
-splitting is black and white thinking, and is a hallmark of intensely unstable relationships, the person with Borderline splits off from the less favorable features within him/herself, and won’t tolerate them in their partner -at the very heart of the Borderline person’s acting out behaviors is core shame, a leftover from a childhood fraught with …
13 Facts Everyone Should Know About Borderline Personality Disorder
1 BPD often causes symptoms like extreme mood shifts and uncertainty in how a person views themselves and others- at it’s core, BPD affects how a person thinks and feels about themselves and others enough to negatively impact their daily life, people with BPD don’t just experience mood changes, these shifts can be so severe …
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The Four Types of BPD
1 Discouraged Borderline Personality Disorder clingy, submissive, general feeling of gloom wherever they go, a deep-seated rage simmers constantly within them, ready to explode, tend to harm themselves by self-mutilation and are prone to have suicidal thoughts which they could act upon if not given the help they need 2 Impulsive Borderline Personality Disorder constantly …
The BPD Group 