Maybe healing from Borderline is easier than we think. I have a theory I myself am going to try, and I will post the results as I go along. First I’ll explain it. It’s pretty simple. 1 Think positively-read positive quotes, write positive quotes, write gratefulness lists, write positive things about yourself, use positive affirmations …
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BPD and Romantic Relationships
-BPD relationships are chaotic, intense, and conflict-laden but why? why does there always have to be chaos? who’s fault is it? i think it is the non-BPD partner. the non-BPD partners would say it’s the person with BPD’s fault. but most likely, it’s a combination of the two. it’s intense because people with BPD are …
What I think people without BPD think of people with BPD
Nobody understands Borderline. It’s even hard for us with BPD to understand. And the people without Borderline will never understand, no matter how much they try, no matter how much research they do, no matter if they love the person with BPD or not, they just don’t have the capacity to understand. Let’s take this …
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Rational Thinking for BPD
(helps you decide if your thoughts are rational or if you are having distorted thinking) 1-Situation-describe the situation, who, what, why, where, when 2-My Thoughts-describe what you are thinking while the situation is occuring 3-My Feelings-describe what you are feeling while the situation is occuring 4-Where the Feelings are Coming From-describe where your feelings are …
Hopelessness
Why do we get the way we get? All we do is push the people away that we love. Why do we even bother? Is it even worth it to try? Or will we eventually ruin it with them anyway? Is a relationship even possible when you have Borderline? You know it’s not going to …
Things to Remember
-Reduce shame and self-criticism-I am enough, I’m flawed and I make mistakes and that’s okay, I don’t need to perfect, I accept myself, everybody has struggles and makes mistakes, I’m like everyone else, I am completely lovable just as I am, I don’t need others to validate my self-worth, I don’t need to please everyone …
My experiences with Object Constancy (or lack there of)
My own fear of abandonment has ruined relationships, caused me to have suicidal behaviors, made me spend hours upon hours having intrusive thoughts, made me clingy and needy, and much more. My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship (I know what you’re going to say…), he lives in Tennessee and I live in …
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Object Constancy and Abandonment Issues
-the fear of abandonment could show up as a lingering feeling of insecurity, intrusive thoughts, emptiness, unstable sense of self, clinginess, neediness, extreme mood fluctuations, and frequent relationship conflicts, or cutting off completely and becoming emotionally numb -if the message we were given as an infant was that the world is unsafe and that people …
Ways to change your thinking
1-Identify the Distortion -write down your negative thoughts, this will make it easier to think about the problem in a more positive and realistic way, identify which cognitive distortion you’re involved in 2-Examine the Evidence -instead of assuming that your negative thought is true, examine the actual evidence for it 3-The Double-standard Method -instead of …
How to Radically Accept
-Radical Acceptance is not about “looking on the bright side” or “staying positive”-it’s seeing exactly what is, even all the shit, and just, accepting the fact of it’s existence, and, yes, sometimes seeing the beauty in the ugliness, and the teeny tiny sparks of light in the dark. -It’s not about defeat or avoiding change, …
The BPD Group 