1 Reappraisal- -you don’t get frustrated because of events, you get frustrated because of your beliefs -to resist getting angry at someone, reappraise the situation and think “It’s not about me, they must be having a bad day” -amygdala activities decrease in response to negative stimuli, when you use reappraisal 2 Channel- -simply direct your …
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When you and your partner both have issues
-Communication is key. Tell your partner if you’re having a bad day. Listen when your partner says they’re having a bad day. Communication is always important in relationships, but it’s doubly important when one or both of you has a mental illness -Ask questions/ If your partner is struggling, asking them questions to help you …
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Dating When you have BPD
Dating while you have BPD can be interesting. It can sometimes be difficult, it can sometimes be easy. The following is a list of ideas that can help you better navigate things. First I will talk about common symptoms of BPD in relationships, then I will talk about ways to better handle things. Common symptoms …
Positive Traits of BPD
-passionate -insightful -curious -compassionate -sympathetic -loving -appreciative -dependent -protective -loyal -caring -creative -high pain tolerance -high IQ/intelligent -high awareness/connection -discipline -alluring/interesting -individualistic -engaging -sarcastic/funny -bold -strong -lively -intense
Automatic Negative Thoughts
1 First there is an event/trigger 2 Next comes a thought 3 Then an emotion Automatic negative thoughts are: -shorthand -almost always believed -spontaneous -presented in terms of should, must, or ought -personal -persistent and self-perpetuating -differ from what we say out loud -repeat certain things -learned (but can be unlearned) -plausible but not probable …
How to release your anger/rage
(these will work for some people and not for others. it’s okay) 1 look at your rulebook-if you never explained your rules to the person who angered you, how can you be upset they broke them? 2 aromatherapy-try soothing scents, such as mint or lavender 3 buy a recordable alarm clock and record yourself saying …
BPD and Abandonment
-the struggle with relationships is very common for people with BPD -a key symptom of BPD is fear of abandonment -this symptom may cause you to need frequent reassurance that abandonment is not imminent, to go to great lengths to try to avoid abandonment, and to feel devastated when someone ends a relationship with you …
Support Groups for BPD
Joining a support group gives individuals a chance to connect, and also allows the entire group to be there to perceive what is going on and be able to give feedback or group-support when problems arise There is almost nothing more valuable than having a group of people who know you, that you can relate …
DBT Tool Kit
No matter what is thrown at you, you have to be ready with a DBT skill or response, in the moment. You cannot hesitate and you cannot give up. Make an acceptance-acknowledgement declaration -for you and your loved one this declaration often opens the door to healing and change -repeat it over and over if …
Splitting
-a term used in psychiatry to describe the inability to hold opposing thoughts, feelings, or beliefs -some might say that a person who splits sees the world in terms of black and white, all or nothing -it’s a distorted way of thinking in which the positive or negative attributes of a person or event are …
The BPD Group 